What is jealousy?

A complex emotion with feelings of:

• suspicion 
• rage 
• fear of humiliation

It can effect people of all genders, ages, and sexual orientations. It can arise when a person perceives a threat to a meaningful relationship from another party. The threat may be real or perceived.

At the heart of jealousy is fear of loss. Loss of:

• the relationship itself
• self-respect
• or ‘face’

Fear brings on insecurity. When fear lessens, jealousy lessens also. The opposite to jealousy is self-acceptance and love. 

Jealousy can be pathological. The signs of this are:

• constant thoughts about their partner being unfaithful without proof 
• controlling behaviours 
• making unfounded accusations 
• restricting or invading another’s privacy
• threats to harm the self or others